How to Make Someone Attracted to You (& Keep the Attraction Coming!)
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How do you keep someone attracted to you? How do you keep their attraction, attention, and love coming towards you whenever you want, for as long as you want, in a consistent way? I want to talk about what not to do and also what to do.
Where we go wrong—particularly in relationships, especially when a specific person comes in or you have contact with your specific person—is we often let our wounds arise. These wounds start telling us things like, "They don't like me anymore, they don't love me anymore, they're going away, they're distancing themselves." I did a post recently about receiving crumbs from your specific person, and I dive deep into that in the post. Really, this is essentially that type of feeling. It's like they’re here, but then they start going away. I'm sure a lot of people have had this experience. It’s very common—you attract someone in, but then they start to either distance themselves or go away, and you start to feel really scared in the relationship.
What’s happening when this occurs is your own wounds or belief system about being left, not being worthy, or not being loved start to arise inside of you—your wounded inner child. Because of that, it manifests a new reality where this person starts to not be as attracted to you, not show as much attention, not be as interested. And then what happens is, you pay attention to that in the 3D reality. You see they’re not as attracted, you see they’re not as interested, and you start putting your focused attention on that. What happens? You start to manifest that reality—more and more of them not being attracted, not being as interested, and distancing themselves.
So, what is happening in this circumstance is two things: Your wound is popping up—Your wound about being left or abandoned starts manifesting, and your person starts to distance themselves. You start to pay attention to that, and then you create more of the same. This is what we do not want to do. Of course, when we are in contact with our specific person, we do not want to entertain the beliefs or the thoughts or the feelings that they don’t want to be with us or that they’re leaving or not as interested. We don’t want to entertain that, and we don’t want to pay attention to the manifestations of that.
So, what do you do to keep someone attracted to you, to keep them coming in, to feel their attraction coming towards you? You guys know what to do, I think. What you have to do is twofold: You have to create and keep a consistent inner process that knows this person is attracted to you.
There’s a way I often work with clients who have had the experience of their specific person being really into them at a certain point and then turning around and starting to distance. So, if this is your circumstance, here’s something you can do to start to shift this reality: Remember when that person was really, really into you—remember when they were showering you with love. That’s going to activate the state of being where that person is attracted to you. When you go into your memory and think about what it felt like when your specific person was super into you, there’s a state of being—it’s the state of, "Oh, this person loves me. This person is showering their attention on me, and they’re so into me." That’s the state of being you want to activate now, even through these memories, to bring their attraction back towards you.
I just recorded a post on the state of being, which I shared yesterday, so I’ll link it for you to watch.
How to keep someone attracted? Number one: You have to consistently know that this person is into you. You can’t stop knowing that. I’ll give you an example from my life. When I attracted my partner, I knew that my new partner was going to be incredibly attracted to me. So, I attracted a man who is incredibly attracted to me. How I keep him attracted is easy at this point, because I’ve created the manifestation of a man who’s really attracted to me. Now I use the 3D reality to my benefit, because the evidence I get is that he’s super attracted to me, and I get showered with that attraction and love every single day. So that just keeps the manifestation rolling. What didn’t happen for me is what I talked about earlier. What didn’t happen is the wounds popping up that said, "Oh no, this person isn’t going to be attracted to me anymore," or, "Oh no, this person isn’t going to like me anymore, they’re going away." Those things didn’t pop up. Maybe little ones popped up here and there, but I never gave any value to those types of thoughts. I kept my dominant beliefs in the position of, "Of course, my man is super attracted to me."
So, again, the way you keep someone attracted to you or make them attracted to you has everything to do with what you think, feel, and believe. You have to be in the state of being that says, "They’re super attracted to me." You have to feel the truth of that. You have to feel the actual truth that this person is super attracted to you, regardless of the 3D reality. That’s one thing. And number two, you have to feel them in that state of being attracted to you.
If your experience is that your specific person used to be attracted to you, but now they’ve distanced themselves, the best thing you can do is go back into your memories. Think about the time when this person was super into you—when they were pursuing you. I'll link a post on how to be pursued by your specific person. Think of that time when they were pursuing you, when they were showering you with love. Use that memory to remember what it felt like. That memory is giving you access to the state of being you should be practicing now.
The state of being is: "Of course, they’re super into me. I feel them coming after me." Every time I do this with clients, there’s a very major aha moment and a shift for them. Here’s the point I want to get across: The state of being of thinking and feeling your specific person isn’t into you feels very different from the state of being of thinking and feeling they are into you. They feel like night and day. Most clients come to me in a state of being where they feel like, "Where are they? They left. They don’t like me anymore. Where are they going? Why are they leaving me?" They’re in the state of being where the person is not attracted anymore.
What I do in my sessions (and my courses teach this too) is take them into the state of being where they remember what it felt like when the person was coming towards them. Almost everyone who has a specific person they’ve been in a relationship with remembers what it felt like when that person was coming towards them. That memory is gold. I'll link a post on how to use your memories to attract your specific person. That memory is gold for you because it will remind you, "Oh yeah." All my clients do this—they immediately light up, smile, and remember, "Oh yeah, they used to totally pursue me, they used to be so into me, they were coming towards me."
When you remember that or feel that, you activate the state of being where they’re attracted to you. All you have to do is practice that state of being so that it becomes your dominant inner experience. If you’re consistently remembering what it felt like for them to come towards you and you’re not giving too much attention to the outer reality as it is now, eventually, your inner state of being will be, "Oh my gosh, yeah, they’re into me. They were always into me, they were coming after me." It’s that state of being—feeling your person attracted to you—that is going to keep them attracted.
I went in a lot of different directions in this post, but the point I’m trying to make is this: How do you keep someone attracted to you? You continue to consistently know that they’re into you. As long as you know that they’re into you, they’re going to be into you. I’ve done this so much in my relationships, and this is the way to do it. You just know and don’t sway from that inner knowing.
As I mentioned earlier, the ways to sway from this knowing are by letting your wounds come up, telling yourself that they’re not into you anymore, that they’re going away, that they don’t like you anymore. That’s going to start creating that reality. So, you can’t allow that. Don’t entertain those thoughts, don't entertain those wounds, and don’t entertain those stories.
Instead, you consistently know, "They’re into me, they love me, they’re attracted to me." If you need help getting into that state of being, use your memory. Remember the time when they were super into you and let that be your dominant inner state.
You can do this with anyone. If it’s a brand-new person and you don’t have any memory of them being into you, create that state of being as a knowing. You just know, "They’re into me." What it feels like to know someone is attracted to you is just a consistent inner knowing, and it will eventually manifest externally. So that’s how you do it.
You continue to know that they’re into you, and they will stay into you. I hope this was helpful.
Thank you so much for being here with me. I’ll see you soon.
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