Trauma doesn't only change your memories. It can change your expectations.
Trauma doesn't only change your memories. It can change your expectations. It creates predictions. It teaches the mind what to expect from people. From love. From success. From conflict. From safety. Those expectations become the lens through which every new experience is interpreted. This is why some people can explain their childhood in extraordinary detail... But still expect abandonment in healthy relationships. Still expect criticism when they make a mistake. Still expect danger when life finally becomes calm. The memory isn't running their life. The prediction is. Understanding your past is valuable. But your brain isn't only storing experiences. It's constantly asking: "Based on everything I've learned... what is most likely to happen next?" That question silently organises perception before conscious thought ever begins. The answer to that question shapes what you notice... What you ignore... Who you trust... How you love... And ultimatel...