7 Years Free from Panic Attacks – And the Lessons That Changed Everything
For years, I believed my anxiety was something I had to “fix.” I thought if I just worked harder, practiced more discipline, or found the perfect coping strategy, it would finally go away.
But anxiety isn’t just about panic attacks, racing thoughts, or breathlessness. It runs deeper—much deeper.
It’s woven into the way we see ourselves.
It’s shaped by the stories we tell ourselves.
It’s tied to our deepest fears and vulnerabilities.
After years of struggling, I finally started to heal. And in the seven years since my last panic attack, I’ve learned powerful lessons that changed everything.
1. Anxiety Wasn’t the Problem—It Was the Symptom
I used to think my anxiety was random, but it wasn’t. It was a reaction to something deeper:
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Fear of rejection.
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Fear of not being enough.
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Fear that if I wasn’t “perfect,” I would lose the people I loved.
Anxiety wasn’t my enemy; it was a signal. A message telling me to look at my self-worth, my patterns, and the fears that lived in my subconscious.
2. I Didn’t Have to Earn My Place in People’s Lives
For years, I believed love and acceptance were things I had to earn. That if I worked hard enough, pleased everyone, and never upset anyone, I would finally feel secure.
But real love isn’t conditional.
The people who truly care about you don’t require you to over-give, overthink, or exhaust yourself just to be “worthy” of their presence. Learning this freed me from toxic cycles of seeking validation at the cost of my own well-being.
3. My Anxiety Thrived in Unsafe Relationships
Growing up walking on eggshells meant I didn’t notice when I was doing it in my adult life, too.
I tolerated relationships where I felt unheard, unseen, or constantly worried about disappointing someone. My nervous system was in a constant state of survival.
But real connection doesn’t require you to shrink yourself. True safety in relationships feels like peace—not like proving, earning, or fearing abandonment.
4. No One Else Could Make Me Feel Safe—I Had to Do That for Myself
For years, I kept looking for someone to make me feel safe. If I just found the right friend, the right partner, or the right mentor, then I’d finally feel secure.
But no amount of external reassurance could replace the trust I needed to build within myself. Healing meant realizing:
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I am the safe space I’ve been searching for.
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I can be there for myself in ways I never had before.
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My self-trust is what anchors me, not someone else’s approval.
5. The Way I Spoke to Myself Mattered More Than I Realized
Every time I told myself:
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“You’re overreacting.”
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“You’re too sensitive.”
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“You’re being dramatic.”
…I was echoing the words that made me anxious in the first place.
Healing started when I stopped being my own worst critic and became my own biggest supporter. When I started speaking to myself the way I would a friend, my inner world began to change.
6. Strength Isn’t About Being Unshakable—It’s About Being Human
For so long, I thought healing meant becoming untouchable, unbreakable, and immune to struggle. But real strength isn’t about pretending everything is fine.
Real strength is:
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Asking for help when you need it.
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Setting boundaries, even when it’s hard.
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Walking away from things that harm your peace.
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Giving yourself permission to rest, to feel, and to be human.
Healing isn’t about becoming “perfect” or anxiety-free—it’s about learning how to navigate life with more self-compassion and resilience.
Anxiety Is More Than a Chemical Imbalance—It’s a State of Being
Yes, anxiety has biological and neurological components. But for many of us, anxiety is also deeply emotional.
At its root, anxiety is often tangled with:
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Old wounds that were never fully processed.
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Attachment patterns that make us fear abandonment.
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Self-worth struggles that tell us we’re not enough.
The good news? These things can heal.
You’re Not Broken—You’re Healing
If this resonates with you, I want you to hear this:
You are not broken.
You are not failing.
You are learning, growing, and unlearning years of conditioning.
Healing is possible. You deserve peace. And you don’t have to do it alone.
Have you ever noticed how your anxiety connects to your self-worth? Let me know in the comments—I’d love to hear your thoughts.
And if this spoke to you, share it with someone who needs it.
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With love & light,
Awakened Soul
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