Awakened Soul

I was recently asked this question on my blog, and I think it’s something a lot of heart-centered leaders and deeply empathic individuals wrestle with—so I wanted to share a fuller answer here. The short answer? It’s not always about your behavior. Sometimes, it’s about what your presence activates in others. Many people misread empathy as codependency. Not because that’s what it truly is—but because your emotional presence reveals something in them . When someone hasn't fully faced their own emotional wounds, your genuine empathy might feel invasive—not because you’re doing anything wrong, but because it touches places within them they’ve worked hard to avoid. Empathy can expose, even unintentionally. When you lead with attunement and care: 🔁 Your emotional clarity might highlight their emotional confusion. 🔁 Your ability to hold pain stirs their avoidance mechanisms. 🔁 Your healthy boundaries get mistaken for coldness or detachment. 🔁 Your love might feel “too much” simply b...

We’re often told to stop trying to fix others. To stop solving their problems. To just work on ourselves. And that’s true—to a point. I used to step in quickly. Offering advice. Trying to help. I thought I was doing good. I thought I was being useful. Then I learned: Not everyone wants help. And many aren’t asking to be rescued. So I turned inward. I stopped rushing in. I learned to lead myself first. To ask better questions. To heal what was mine to heal. And my life shifted. More self-love. More peace. More clarity. More alignment. But here’s the part people don’t say out loud: Just because you realise you don't need to 'fix others', doesn’t mean you stop serving them. Fixing implies that something is broken.  We aren't broken. Healing or guiding respects sovereignty.  It says: “I trust your inner wisdom, and I’ll walk beside you, not pull you.” Each person is the rightful authority in their own life. But Inner work isn’t the end. It’s the beginning of something deepe...

“Why do I keep attracting people who aren’t right for me?” “Why do I get ghosted and still make it mean something about me?” These questions sting because they speak to something deeper than just bad luck or poor timing. They point to a hidden truth: The problem isn’t the ghosting. It’s the story we tell ourselves about what the ghosting means. We think we need to change the people we attract. But in reality, we need to shift the parts of us that expect to be left. This isn’t just about dating. These patterns run deep and show up in how we lead, who we trust, how we do business, and how we build friendships. They shape what we tolerate, what we pursue, and even what we believe we deserve. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a loop of rejection, abandonment, or emotional burnout — here are: 10 Hidden Patterns That Keep You Attracting Less Than You Deserve 1. You weren’t taught to expect presence. You were trained to prove your worth for breadcrumbs of attention. So when someone g...

Let me say something you might not hear often enough: It’s not your fault. The financial struggle, the never-quite-enough, the feast-or-famine cycles — they didn’t start with you. You’re carrying things that aren’t yours. Old money wounds. Generational scarcity. Quiet shame passed down like heirlooms. Most of us are. And it’s keeping us stuck — no matter how many affirmations we whisper or how hard we hustle. I know because I lived it. I used to think something was wrong with me . Why couldn’t I “just be better with money”? Why did I sabotage every time things started flowing? Why did I feel so much guilt around wanting more ? And then I uncovered the truth: Money patterns are inherited. Not just in your bank account — but in your beliefs, your nervous system, your self-worth. Your family’s relationship with money didn’t just shape how they lived. It shaped how you think, feel, and behave about money right now — even if you're decades into adulthood and "should kno...

Most people think they’re stuck because they’re lazy, unmotivated, or "not trying hard enough." But the truth is, you're not stuck because you're broken. You're stuck because you're avoiding one emotion that quietly controls everything: grief . Not Just About Loss — It’s About What You Never Got When we hear "grief," most of us think of death or losing someone close. But grief goes far beyond that. Grief is the pain of what never was. The nurturing you didn’t receive. The safety you never felt. The parts of yourself you had to shut down just to survive. It’s the ache of realizing that you spent years playing a role—people-pleasing, overachieving, staying small—because deep down, you didn’t feel safe being you. And most people have no idea they’re grieving. Instead, they: Stay busy so they don’t have to feel Numb out with scrolling, overworking, or perfectionism Repeat the same relationship patterns with emotionally unavailable ...

Let’s get real for a second. Not surface-level “5 Tips for Productivity” kind of real. I mean real real — the kind of truth that sits heavy in your chest because you know it’s  already  true before the words even fully hit your ears. There’s a reason your business feels stuck. And it’s not your offer. It’s not your audience. It’s not the algorithm. It’s this: You’re afraid to be seen. Fully. Unapologetically. Messily. Powerfully. I’m not talking about  visibility  — I know you’re posting, showing up, maybe even killing it online in some people’s eyes. But deep down? There’s a part of you that’s still hiding. You’re curating instead of connecting. Filtering instead of feeling. Performing instead of being. And it's not your fault. Somewhere along the line, someone taught you that to be  taken seriously , you had to mute parts of yourself. That being liked was safer than being known. That vulnerability would cost you credibility. So you got good at being polished. ...

Have you ever felt like no matter how much you show up—how much you love, care, or give—you're still not fully seen, chosen, or valued? You’re not alone. Many of us silently live in the space between almost enough and still not picked . It’s exhausting. But there’s one powerful thought—a simple shift—that changed everything for me. And it can change everything for you, too. “I am the standard for how I am loved, chosen, and cherished.” This says: I define the quality of love I allow. I no longer accept less than I deserve.  It’s not about them at all. It’s about you —about stepping into your own worth, your own power, and your own identity. Why This Thought Works When you say, “ I am the standard for how I am loved, chosen, and cherished ” you’re not trying to convince anyone. You’re claiming a truth about yourself. You’re saying: I am enough. I am valuable. I am the prize. I don’t need to be chosen—I am chosen. By me . This is the energy that draws people...

You ever scroll through your feed, see people getting married, buying homes, having babies, building six-figure businesses, traveling the world — and you’re sitting there wondering, What the hell am I doing with my life? You try to be happy for them (and part of you is), but deep down, it stings. Not because you’re bitter. Because you’re scared. Scared you missed your shot. Scared you’re running out of time. Scared that maybe... you just don’t have what it takes . Listen. If you’ve ever felt like you’re falling behind — like everyone got some secret manual to life that somehow skipped your inbox — I want you to know this: You are not behind. You’re just living a different timeline. And I know, I know. That sounds like something people say to make you feel better. But I’m not here to spoon-feed you fluff. I’m here to speak truth. The kind that shakes you awake and makes you breathe differently. The Lie You’ve Been Sold We’ve been brainwashed to believe life is a straight line. Gra...

If you’ve been trying to manifest your dream life but feel stuck, frustrated, or like nothing is really moving forward—this message is for you. Because here’s the harsh truth most people don’t want to admit: you can’t manifest what you want while you’re at war with yourself. That internal battle, the war raging inside your mind and heart—that’s the biggest block to your manifestation power. And no amount of vision boards, affirmations, or manifestation hacks can fix that until you address it. The Inner War Nobody Talks About Think about it. You’re asking the Universe for more—more love, more money, more success—yet when you look in the mirror, there’s that voice whispering (or sometimes yelling): “You’re not good enough.” “You don’t deserve that.” “Why bother, it’ll never work.” That voice? That’s your inner war. And it’s louder than any manifestation prayer you send out. Because manifestation isn’t magic. It’s alignment. When you’re battling yourself, you’re fractured—pulling en...

You’ve read the productivity books. You’ve tried the vision boards. You’ve bought the planner, blocked the time, even said the affirmation in the mirror. And still — when it’s time to show up, something inside you pulls back. Not because you’re lazy. Not because you’re undisciplined. Not because you “don’t want it bad enough.” But because  you’re carrying something. A weight that doesn’t show up on to-do lists. A fear that doesn’t fit in spreadsheets or strategy sessions. A voice that whispers,  “What if I fail?” Or worse —  “What if I succeed… and it all falls apart again?” No one talks about this. Not really. But you feel it every time you try to  go big ... and end up spiraling instead. And then comes the shame. You scroll. You disappear. You beat yourself up for not following through (again). You wonder if you’re just not cut out for this. Let me stop you right here. You are not broken. You’re brilliant. You’re powerful. You’re just stuck in an old survival loop ...

Most people are walking through life checked out. They’re working jobs they hate, chasing goals that don’t fulfil them, and waking up with this quiet ache in their chest like… “Is this really it?” They don’t talk about it much. It’s not the kind of thing you post about on social media. But deep down, they feel it. Maybe you feel it. That subtle but persistent voice whispering: “There’s something more for me.” “I was meant for more than this.” And you’re right. But here’s the thing nobody tells you: Your soul mission isn’t something you “figure out” with logic. It’s not in your resume. It’s not in some 5-step plan. It’s not what your parents wanted for you. And it sure as hell isn’t what society sold you. Your soul mission lives beneath the surface — under the conditioning, the trauma, the noise. And it reveals itself the moment you ask yourself this one question : “What breaks my heart... that I can’t ignore anymore?” Let that sink in. Because your soul mission isn...

There was a time I struggled to understand why certain people triggered me so deeply—why their words, actions, or even subtle attitudes felt like personal attacks. Maybe you’ve felt it too: That coworker who rubs you the wrong way. The client who seems impossible to please. Or even someone on social media whose confidence somehow makes you feel smaller. For the longest time, I chalked it up to this: “That’s just how they are.” But that mindset—while comforting—was also disempowering. It kept me stuck in a loop of blame, judgment, and emotional reactivity. It created distance instead of understanding, frustration instead of freedom. Then came a quiet but powerful shift in perspective: The people who trigger us—or inspire us—are often holding up a mirror. Sometimes they reflect back parts of ourselves we don’t want to see. Other times, they show us who we long to become. Either way, they’re never just about themselves. This realization was uncomfortable at first. Aft...

Success looks different for everyone. But here’s the truth few talk about: You can check all the boxes—land that promotion, hit your goals, build your dream business—and still feel stuck. Like something’s missing. Like the joy and meaning you expected just haven’t shown up. I’ve been there. The moment everything changed for me wasn’t when I got that big win. It was when I realized that chasing success was making me run away from something deeper inside—my own experience of meaning and connection. That was the battle I fought and won. The Enemy: A Broken System and Outdated Thinking Here’s the harsh reality: We’re wired to think success is a checklist—achieve X, get Y, then be happy. But that’s a broken system. It’s outdated thinking that leaves so many people trapped in a cycle of achievement without fulfillment. The real pain? It’s what many of us face daily: feeling invisible in our own lives, disconnected from what truly matters, and exhausted from running on a treadmill of ext...

 What if everything you’ve been doing to succeed… Has actually been working against you? You’ve got the skills. You’ve got the experience. You’ve read the books, taken the courses, maybe even built the business. But still, something’s off. You hesitate to speak up in rooms where you know you have value. You second-guess your own ideas. You feel the need to prove, over-explain, or constantly earn your right to be there. Sound familiar? You're not alone—and you're not broken. I know this pattern intimately. Because I lived it. For years . I wasn’t stuck because I lacked strategy. I was stuck because of the story I was telling myself . The Self-Concept You Don’t Know You Have Most people think success is about mindset, habits, execution. But here’s what nobody tells you: It’s your self-concept —the quiet, invisible identity you carry—that defines how far you go. If deep down you’re still carrying beliefs like: “I’m not enough yet.” “I’m not that kind o...